How to get over.

How to get over love?



5.) Say goodbye but never say hello again.



4.) Forget but never regret.



3.) Pick up the pieces but never put them back.



2.) Feel the pain but never keep it.



1.) Move On.

*text message from pot*

Existential Vacuum

Existential Vacuum - feeling of emptiness

I feel that way right now... maybe because I can't think of something to write right now..Empty mind!..tsk..tsk..

By the way that term was said by our profesor (Sir Ryan) when he was discussing to us things about our psychological report.

 

Random thoughts

"I was busy talking to you, telling you how much I love you...when someone told me.. 'Are you crazy? your talking to someone as sleep' I said, 'I know, but this is the only time he'll listen to me..." 

 

"I've learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is stalk them and hope they panic and give in"

 

 

"To love is to risk ..sometimes we get what we don't expect but that's just how it is. To love,we simply have to give not knowing what to take"

 

 

"Love is confusing isn't? We can never tell when to grow up and when to keep trying, when to let go and when to hold on. The question is: Is it the love which is confusing or the person your loving?"

 

 

"It's hard to live alone. Its harder to choose someone you can love but the hardest part of living is to admit that you have fallen in love with someone you didn't plan to love right from the start"

 

 

"There was one time I fell in love with someone special, I told myself that I wouldn't give up on  that someone but one day I did, why? Because I never knew how much love could hurt I almost died.."

How Could an Angel Break my Heart

How Could An Angel Break My Heart

Toni Braxton

 

I heard he sang a lullaby

I heard he sang it from his heart

When I found out thought I would die

Because that lullaby was mine

I heard he sealed it with a kiss

He gently kissed her cherry lips

I found that so hard to believe

Because his kiss belonged to me

 

How could an angel break my heart

Why didn't he catch my falling star

I wish I didn't wish so hard

Maybe I wished our love apart

How could an angel break my heart

 

mmm..mm

 

I heard her face was white as rain

Soft as a rose that blooms in May

He keeps her picture in a frame

And when he sleeps he calls her name...

I wonder if she makes him smile

The way he used to smile at me

I hope she doesn't make him laugh

Because his laugh belongs to me

 

How could an angel break my heart

Why didn't he catch my falling star

I wish I didn't wish so hard

Maybe I wish our love apart

How could an angel break my heart...

 

whoa..oh...yeah

 

Oh my soul is dying, it's crying

I'm trying to understand

Please help me

 

How could an angel break my heart

Why didn't he catch my falling star

I wish I didn't wish so hard

Maybe I wished our love apart

How could an angel break my heart...

what..

oooh....

Husband Store

A store that sells husbands has just opened in New York City, where a woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates.

"You may visit the store ONLY ONCE! There are six floors and the attributes of the men increase as the shopper ascends the flights. There is, however, a catch: you may choose any man from a particular floor, or you may choose to go up a floor, but you cannot go back down except to exit the building!"

So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband.

On the first floor the sign on the door reads: Floor 1 - These men have jobs.

The second floor sign reads: Floor 2 - These men have jobs and love kids.

The third floor sign reads: Floor 3 - These men have jobs, love kids, and are extremely good looking. "Wow," she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.

She goes to the fourth floor and the sign reads: Floor 4 - These men have jobs, love kids, are drop-dead good looking and help with the housework. "Oh, mercy me!" she exclaims, "I can hardly stand it!"

Still, she goes to the fifth floor and sign reads: Floor 5 - These men have jobs, love kids, are drop-dead gorgeous, help with the housework, and have a strong romantic streak

She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor and the sign reads: Floor 6 - You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please.

Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.

Theory of Boys and Girls

The much debated theory of Boys and Girls
By Helen Lin

The theory is as follows:

Guys and girls CANNOT be “just friends” if they spend a considerable amount of time together exclusively

Let me rephrase:

You have a friend of the opposite sex. AT SOME POINT in the relationship together, you will either 1) get a crush on him/her 2) entertain the idea of going out with them but never following through 3) entertain the idea, following through, but have it fail 4) entertain the idea, following though, have it work and thus, proves my theory

Example: Joe meets Jane. Joe and Jane spend everyday together for say, 3 weeks straight, maybe even 2. It is guaranteed that either Joe or Jane will start to get a crush on each other, or at least, start entertaining the idea in their heads, but not necessarily both at the same time.

A Little Background: The basis of my thesis
When Harry Met Sally Theory

Sally: We are just going to be friends, OK?
Harry: Great, friends. It's the best thing...You realize, of course, that we can never be friends.
Sally: Why not?
Harry: What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape, or form - is that men and women can't be friends, because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry: No, you don't.
Sally: Yes, I do.
Harry: No, you don't.
Sally: Yes, I do.
Harry: You only think you do.
Sally: You're saying I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry: No, what I'm saying is they all want to have sex with you.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: How do you know?
Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally: So you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive.
Harry: No, you pretty much want to nail them, too.
Sally: What if they don't want to have sex with you?
Harry: Doesn't matter, because the sex thing is already out there, so the friendship is ultimately doomed, and that is the end of the story.

However, there are a few clauses:

Clause 1: If either person has a boyfriend/ girlfriend. It is possible to be “just friends” if both or at least one are involved with someone else. However, if you think about it, if Joe or Jane both has a significant either, why would they spend everyday together for 2, 3 weeks? I think the boyfriend/girlfriend would get very jealous. And even then, there are still big chances of the two liking each other since they spend so much time together. And I’m sure many of us have liked people that have a boyfriend/girlfriend.

Clause 2: If they do not see each other everyday. If they only hang out with each other like, once a week exclusively, chances of romance decrease because the other 6 days of week, there are other people to keep your mind busy. But even that’s not a guarantee- you might just look forward to that one day of the week. But definitely, in this case, most likely you really are “just friends”.

Clause 3: If you only hang out in a group. This, by far, will definitely guarantee the “just friends” status since there are always so many other people around. The concentrative attention is focused on the group, not between a single boy and girl. Thus, the girl/boys will really be “just friends” with everyone.

Clause 4: After being “not just friends”. Here’s a tricky one. Say, Joe and Jane get together, but then realize it was a stupid idea and want to be “just friends” again. Often, it is hard to go back to that “just friends” track if something has happened, but it is possible. However, if they DO revert back to “just friends”, most likely, they won’t spend the same amount of time they did with each other before they got together because they’re afraid of making the same mistake again. So thus, it goes back to Clause 2, which is dependent on how much time they spend with each other.

Criticism and Dissenting opinions

What if….

• My friend of the opposite sex is ugly and I am not attracted to them?
Helen’s answer: What kind of retarded friend are you if you actually think your friend is ugly?!?!? I am a firm believer that people’s looks can reflect their personality. That is why somebody may be more beautiful after you get to know them. And why the hell are you spending so much time with them if you think they are ugly?!?! If they really have a great personality, once again, back to Clause 2, once you spend ENOUGH time with them, this “ugliness” will probably diminish because you will be able to NOT BE SHALLOW and see past JUST THE LOOKS. And once you get past the looks, then there’s no turning back to being “just friends”, because you’ll adore them inside and out.

• I’ve known my friend of the opposite sex since I was 8 and we’ve been friends for so long that it’s like my sister/brother.
Helen’s answer: Have you SEEN Clarissa Explains it all??!?! Even those two, who are best friends got together at one point, but then realized it was stupid. If you’ve been friends since 8, there will be one day down the road where one or another will go for the other, whether the other person knows or not….and it’s the easiest thing too, ESPECIALLY since if you’re such great friends. Think about- same interests, same humor, and obviously click well enough to be friends…you’ll definitely entertain the idea if you get along so well.

• The boy is gay and the girl is a lesbian?
Helen’s answer: Did you see Chasing Amy? Amy was a lesbian but Holden and her still ended up falling in love. Holden and Amy were “just friends” before Holden went on that teary-eyed speech about how much he loved her. Then she became straight. I think. But in the end, they didn’t talk to each other again.

• My friend of the opposite sex have annoying habits?
Helen’s answer: Everyone has flaws. If they really are THAT annoying, you wouldn’t be spending that much time with them. Obviously, you can put up with it to some extent.

Think about this: You know how every time you start hanging out with a friend of the opposite sex too much, people start talking and asking annoying questions like, “So, what’s going on with you two?” And you reply, “WE’RE JUST FRIENDS.” But that’s a bunch of crock and you know it. Because what happens is that everyone start making fun of you two, and then either you or your friend (or both) will start entertaining the idea in your head (if not there already)…and voila! You’re no longer “just friends” because one of you will want MORE.

Typical Situations


Situation 1: Joe meets Jane. Jane meets Joe. Joe and Jane hang out a lot. Joe starts liking Jane. Jane starts liking Joe. Joe kisses Jane one night. They become boyfriend/girlfriend. They have a nice relationship. They break up one day. The “friendship” fails. The end.

Situation 2: Joe meets Jane. Jane meets Joe. Joe and Jane hang out a lot. Joe secretly starts liking Jane, but is “afraid to ruin the friendship” (a bunch of crock because it really means “I’m afraid to ruin my chances to get with you”) Joe struggles with it for a while, but finally tells Jane. Jane does not return the feelings because “they’re too good of friends” (also a bunch of crock- it really means, “I just don’t find you hot and steamy”. Jane is afraid of leading him on so she becomes distant. Joe gets mad that she’s blowing him off and basically stops even trying to be friends. The “friendship” fails. The end.

Situation 3: Joe meets Jane. Jane meets Joe. Joe and Jane hang out a lot. Joe secretly starts liking Jane, but decides not to “ruin the friendship” by telling. However, he is so conflicted that sometimes he is distant, other times really friendly. Jane is confused. Finally, Joe realizes he can’t keep it inside but can’t tell her either, so he just becomes distant forever. The “friendship” fails. The end.

Situation 4: Joe meets Jane. Jane meets Joe. Joe and Jane hangs out a lot. Joe
has a girlfriend. Jane can’t help but want someone unattainable. Joe doesn’t know
and still hangs out with her. Jane finally grows distant because she can’t handle not
being with him. The “friendship” fails. The end.

Situation 5: Joe meets Jane. Jane meets Joe. Joe and Jane hangs out a lot. Jane
starts liking Joe secretly, but decides it’d be awkward to tell him. She hangs out with
him still and acts the same. Eventually, she gets over it and move on to another guy.
Joe starts liking Jane secretly, but decides not to tell her since he knows she likes
someone else. Eventually, Jane hangs out more and more with the other guy and with
Joe less and less. Joe is greatly hurt and becomes distant all together. Joe finally
gets over her and they never hang out much again. The “friendship” fails. The end.

Situation 6: Joe meets Jane. Jane meets Joe. Joe and Jane hangs out a lot. Joe
starts liking Jane. Jane starts liking Joe. They kiss, but decided it was stupid. They
revert to being “just friends”. However, they still spend a lot of time together, so Joe
starts feeling the attraction for Jane again. But Jane doesn’t want to be involved and
grows distant so she doesn’t lead him on. The “friendship” fails. The end.

I need Space

Rationalize

I've learned a lot from our Abnormal Psychology subject a while ago, about the different kinds of rationalization which is one of the defense mechanisms.(Thanks Sir B.!!!)

Rationalization - a form of defense mechanism wherein an individual justify his/her shortcomings/faults/actions; giving reasons for your actions.

Types of rationalization:

1. Sour-Grape - "sour to sweet"; when a person encounter a negative situation he/she tries to escape it through looking at the other option he/she may have.

      i.e. A guy who was rejected by someone he likes will say that "there are other girls out there who is better than her" or "probably I deserve someone better" well in fact he really likes that girl.

2. Sweet-Lemon - "sweet-sour"; a person who is in the negative situation tries to escape through looking the positive side of it.

       i.e. You were enrolled in a public school, you tried to rationalize the situation through saying that "the teachers are kind to me" or "my schoolmates are very friendly" even if you really don't want to be in that school.

3. Comparison - when a person looks for the faults of others to defy his/her failure.

     i.e. A perfect example of it is when the results of your exams were given to you and you got a failing grade, to lighten yourself you tend to ask your other classmates what are their scores and if you found out that you are not the only one who failed it justify your failure. You reason out as "I am not the only one who failed." or "I got a higher grade compared to others who failed"

4. Doctrine of Balance - when a person rationalize the situation through saying that for every negative events happened to you there will always be a positive event that will happen and vice versa.

    i.e. When you failed in a love relationship, you rationalize through saying that "Anyway I am a successful person" or "At least I am a dean's lister".

5. Predestination - the person perceived him/herself to be "born to be" in a particular situation; another way of consoling themselves.

    i.e. A person who is poor all his life would say "I am born to be poor" or "I was destined to be like this".

6. Procrastination - a person rationalize his/her situation as a delayed success; a postponed achievement

    i.e. When a businessman is bankrupt, he rationalizes the situation through saying "I will make it in the future" or "I will do better next time."

7. Exception - when a person sees himself as an exception to that negative situation he is in to; he sees himself as not part of the "rule" or that it is not his characteristic.

     i.e. A student is a consistent honor before and it was his first time to fail in his whole life, he will rationalize it through saying "I am really not dumb by the way it was my first time to fail."

8. Symphatism - a person perceives himself to be a pathetic person and everyone is against him, he want people to symphatize with him.

    i.e. A person who feels that he is being neglected by his family, he always sees himself in a pathetic situation, he tends to rationalize through saying "they are making my life miserable" or "I am the protagonist here..symphatize with me"

*lectured by Sir B. (Sept.06,2006)

Tears From Heaven

My background image is like tears right??

Bad Day.

I had a bad day. A very loooooooooooooooooooong bad day yesterday. I thought everything will be okay since in the morning there are no undesirable events happening but I guess you can never call it a day until you are at your house and is about to sleep. Lunch time. A certain person really irritated me. Biochem. A failed test, what more do I need to expect, I shouldn't have studied anyway. Dismissal. We went to the library to do a research and we finished late and it was raining hard but at 8:00pm the rain stopped but the flood is all over the place. It was really a flood as in you can not even get out of the university (even when your in the university) without getting you feet(damn!S***) wet. We were stranded. We need to walk from UST to Morayta just to ride a jeep with all that helpful-but-with-other-intention-of-having-an-income people, kids literally in the water, no i mean in the flood, i think they thought it was a pool and with only ONE jeep(we still walked from Morayta to somewhere).

Lessons learned:

"Do something to get out of the trouble/problem/something undesirable-like flood..don't just wait for it to subside.."

"Its hard to wait for something to happen..Make things happen.."

"It pays to be impulsive sometimes"-Paula

 

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I have been a coprolalic these past few days because of undesirable-hopeless moments in my life..

Picking up my self

I am broken now..poetically speaking...I really can't make a sensible blog now because I feel I am lost and broken.

I reminisce my life way back.. a simple-masungit-frank-highschool girl having a monotonous life, bahay-school-friends. With a snap, I have become an exhausted-still frank-college-lady with that crazy life, bahay-studies-org-studies-friends-biochem-reports-reports-majors!.

I am suddenly lost. I can't find the track that I was once in. I am starting to question my decision in the past.

Why am I here?

Why do I need to study biochem?

Why do I need to be part of an org and worst, be an officer?

Why did I chose Psychology?

Why am I studying in this university?

Why do I need to ask these questions?

I am broken.

I wanted to pick up myself now but I just can't.

One more question:

Am I really going to somewhere?

Post

I made a blog about my feelings right this moment but I think there is technical problem here(in the multiply)..but anyway...I guess I need to post it some other time..It could be a sign that I should make sure that my decision is final.

If the Feeling is Gone

If The Feeling Is Gone

By Kyla

 

If the feeling is gone

Please don't pretend that you still love me

I can see it in your eyes

And it hurts to admit it

I can't tell that the feeling is gone

All I ask is just a little honestly

Though I know that you're not coming back to me

You know I’ll do anything to make you stay

But I just have to let you know

If the feeling is gone

There is sadness in your smile

Though it try to conceive it

I can't tell if the feeling is gone

All I ask is just a little honestly

Though I know that you're not coming back to me

You know I’ll do anything to make you stay

But I just have to let you know

I just have to let you know

If the feeling is gone....